Before starting the main conversation, I want to ask a question to all of you. How many of you have blamed Instagram or YouTube for you sleeping late at night, for eating extra food because your friend insisted on it, or for poor marks in exams because of your bad teachers and talkative friends? I know the answer would be a Yes for a maximum number of you.
We as humans make a lot of mistakes in our life which is quite normal but we make a bigger mistake by not accepting it and an even greater mistake by blaming it on others. Should I call it a human tendency of blaming others for our mistakes?
Calling it a human tendency will only give a kick to our habit. Okay, I understand that I am no one to give you advice on whether you should continue with this habit or not. I will just tell you about its adverse effect on your growth.
~By blaming others, you get a way out for not doing your work again. And under this excuse, you get an edge for doing the same mistake again. This affects your ability to perform and thus adversely affects your efficiency.
~When you are blaming others for your mistakes, you get protection from worldly judgments just for a little span of time but still your subconscious mind in some ways knows that you have done something wrong. And when it strikes your subconscious mind, you gradually get to the stage of self-doubt and guilt.
And as you know both decreasing efficiency and self-doubt can be leading factors that affect your growth in life. I am sure everyone out there would be scared of these terms. Downfall, no growth, disgrace in life... these are terrifying words. Aren't they? Most people don't accept their fault because of the fear, the fear of facing people's response. I know we need to come out of this fear and stopping to blame others can be a major factor for screwing this fear away because you can decrease fear only by facing it. Promise yourself and say, 'Everything that happens to me in the future would only be the consequence of my present works'.
Also, my words should not be mistaken here. I have seen and met a lot of people who keep on blaming themselves for any wrong that happens to them. And these people are equally toxic. They face this feeling of self-doubt every now and then. The main focus here is to accept your faults, mark them as your life experiences that were meant to happen, and grow up by learning from them.
So, that's all for today see you in my next blog. Till then goodbye and stay giggly.
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